When planning your wedding nowadays, it often seems as though it's impossible to take a step without accidentally committing a faux pas. In the old days, you sent out your invitations and peacefully waited until your wedding day. Today, weddings are highly visible, especially on social media. How can you avoid accidentally committing a social media blunder? Read on to find out!
Announcing Your Engagement on Social Media — Before Telling Family Members
It's easy to get excited about your engagement and want to tell the world. But your family members may feel ignored and forgotten about if you post your engagement on Facebook before telling them personally. Take some time to contact your close family members and friends first.
Asking Controversial Wedding Questions on Facebook
Controversial wedding questions will almost always lead to debates among family members and friends. The last thing you want is to have a table seated together of people who recently got into a fight about whether white is the only reasonable color for a wedding dress. Ask a few people you trust, privately, if you're having some doubts.
Being on Your Phone throughout Your Wedding Day and Reception
Try your best to avoid using your phone throughout your wedding day and reception. It's easy to get distracted by social media on any day, but your most important day shouldn't be spent staring at a screen. Give yourself a little screen time before and after and tuck your phone away otherwise. Besides, where will it fit in your dress?
Likewise, you don't need to post every little intimate detail about your wedding on your Facebook. Update your friends and family members regarding milestone moments, but don't pester them with every little thing. If they've already seen the flowers, centerpieces, and dress before your wedding, there isn't going to be any special "reveal" during the day.
Going on "Rants"
Any time you're thinking of getting something "off your chest," take a moment to reflect on whether it really needs to be said. Most rants don't need to be posted on Facebook; your family members and friends aren't going to want to get involved in the drama, and it will really only reflect poorly on you even if you were the wronged individual. Dealing with situations through one-on-one discussions is almost universally better.
It's easy to want to discuss some fantastic things about your wedding, but there's a reason many people get depressed while viewing social media. Humble bragging is going to come off offensive to many, as a way to remind themselves that they don't have what you have.
Don't Forget Not Everyone is Connected
Today there's often a temptation to send electronic invites and connect with people through the internet. But not everyone has a Facebook account. Don't rely on Facebook for invitations and "day of" communications and corrections; it may not reach everyone you need to reach. Have contact information ready, such as phone numbers and email addresses, and make sure to send paper invitations.
Sometimes disconnecting is the best way to deal with social media, especially when it comes to wedding pressures. Just remember that social media is public and many people will see your posts. Don't post anything you wouldn't want to see on anyone else's account and you should be fine.
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